When I joined Facebook, I was really excited about it, because it was a great way to keep up with friends and stuff. The reason I liked it over Myspace was because 1) the design was clean, and 2) it was way more PRIVATE. I liked that I could post pictures and stories and status updates without having to worry, because I trusted everyone on the network.
It’s still private, I guess, but now I’m getting all these friend requests from people I don’t really want to have access to all that stuff. But I can’t say no, can I? I mean, there’s this social stigma. It really offends people if you know them but you deny them friendship on that stupid site. So now I have all these ‘friends’ who I really don’t care to keep in contact with.
I’m not trying to sound harsh. I like the people okay. It’s just that I don’t feel like I can be as open or personal on Facebook anymore, and that just bothers me. As a result, I’m getting to where I barely use it.
I think I’m going to change that. I’m going to start kicking people off my friends list, so that I’m only friends with people I really want to keep in touch with. One thing you’ll learn about me – I don’t give a single ounce of care for internet popularity. I don’t care how many people read this blog, I don’t care how many friends I have on Myspace or Facebook, I don’t care, I don’t care, I don’t care. This blog is here as a personal outlet and I hope people enjoy it, but the day I start thinking I have to tailor my blog to my readers is the day I quit blogging altogether. Same with Facebook – I joined it so I could keep in touch with people I want to be close to, not so I could start comparing the number of friends I have.
Don’t get me wrong. I think it’s perfectly fine to have a reader tailored blog. I keep up with several of them, and the ones I read are really good. I just don’t like this whole obligation thing. Comment for comment, friendship for friendship, add for add – what is that? If you’re trying to network or make a business out of it or something, then I guess there’s nothing wrong with it. But for people like me who just want to make something fun for themselves that other people might also enjoy, it ruins it.
Ugh. The internet. Some days I love it, and some days I wish it were never invented.
I think you can get around that by setting up different friends lists. . And limiting access to things by that friend list. . It is worth looking into. .
Yeah, I’m going to try that. Because honestly, if I go start kicking people off my friends list, that’s like, BEEP! RED ALARM! DAVID HATES ME NOW! Which of course is not the case at all.
Ugh. You know, Maybe I just woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning. Because it IS fun when people comment on your stuff – it makes you feel like someone actually cares. So I guess I do care about how many people read this thing, at least to some extent.
I don’t accept all the people who ask to be my friends. . and I do clean up my friends list every now and then.